Let’s check-in for a minute…
How are you? Really, how are you?
When’s the last time you did a really good heart check? Intentionally checked in with yourself?
Whether it’s been a while or a couple of days, let’s take some time to check-in.
This year has been A LOT – mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually. Just heavy and draining. If you’re like me, then you may have unintentionally gotten so caught up in going through the motions of things and neglected to stick to your normal self-care routine.
“I don’t have time.“
“I don’t feel like it.“
Trust me, I get it and it’s OKAY.
November is here. Chapter 11 of 12. We’re officially in the final quarter of 2020 (well, technically a month in but no judgment here).
It’s time to reset.
While this year has tried to take us out in almost every way imaginable, it’s time for us to reclaim our time and energy.
Here are three ways I’m resetting for quarter 4 and even 2021:
1. Showing myself grace
I put this as number one as no mistake. Listen, sis. You ever set a goal and the first few weeks to a month (or sometimes even longer) start off pretty solid and then life happens and you fall off? This sums up my entire year.
January-beginning of March I was on my fitness/health kick. I was going to the gym 4-5 days/week, sticking to a solid routine, and eating the best I ever had in my adult life. Then…COVID-19 happened.
From my final semester of grad school being canceled to unexpectedly moving back home, I fell off my routine FAST. The dust finally settled and around May, I began to focus back on Twenty. I was finally finished with grad school, graduation came and gone (virtually, of course), and I needed a pick-me-up.
Well, the Twenty spell lasted about a solid month and yet, again my world was rocked. From the never-ending senseless death of black men and women to beginning my career to moving to a new state, I felt like Mr. Krabs in that meme. *also see below for a better idea*
Well the dust has yet again settled and here I am again.
I say all this (in a very long-winded way, sorry) to say, life happens. We may set out the big plans and ideas of how things are supposed to happen and then the complete opposite happens. That is when you show yourself grace. It’s okay. It happens to the best of the best.
For the rest of 2020, no matter what happens, I am focusing on not what I haven’t done and all the negative, but forgiving myself, learning from my mistakes, and showing myself grace.
2. Creating a routine
I could write a whole blog post on creating a routine.
Sidebar: if you would like a blog post on routines – creating them and/or the importance of them, please comment down below and let me know!
We get 24 hours in one day. 24. That’s it. Let’s think about that. If you 7 to 8 of those are for sleeping, that leaves us with 15 or 16 to do everything else. Now if you work a full-time job, then 8 more hours (sometimes more) of your day are already gone. That leaves literally 8 hours or less to do everything else you need to do.
So how do you get everything done?
Create. A. Routine.
Take a week or two and evaluate how you’re spending your time and energy. After that week, take a look and see how you’re really spending your time. Are you being as productive and as disciplined as you can be? The answer is probably no, sis.
We have goals to reach, sis. Money to make. Bags to buy. Trips to take. We can’t become the best version of ourselves if we’re playing around with our time. It’s time to get serious. That procrastination is going to be the reason why you’re still struggling in your 30s, sis.
Tough love, but trust me, I am mostly talking to myself right now. Sis, don’t listen lol.
Here’s an example of my daily routine:
6:00 (wake up)
4:00-6:00 (relax, exercise, eat dinner)
6:00-9:00 (work on Twenty)
Note, that I left a lot of time for certain tasks just in case work or anything else runs late.
Also note, this is also when we’re going to have to refer back to the first point. Not every day or week will be perfect. Remember to show yourself grace as you work to establish this routine.
3. Prioritizing self-care again
In case you were looking for a sign, this is it. Stop neglecting yourself, sis. You need you.
Story Time: So I was in Target because it’s Target. I stumbled across a journal and the first question it asked was “how have you taken care of yourself today?”
One, I felt attack because I hadn’t, thanks for asking. But two, I instantly fell in love with it.
When I got home, I added a sticky note with that quote to my mirror so every night and morning, I can be reminded to take even just a few minutes for myself.
From a face mask to intentional quiet time to maybe binge-watching a few episodes of your favorite shows to ordering takeout from your favorite restaurant, treat yourself sis.
It’s time to get back to you. You deserve it. As much as this year is taking from us, we have to make sure we are putting double that amount back into ourselves.
How are you resetting for quarter 4? Are you getting back to your workout routine or maybe taking a day off for yourself each week/month? Maybe even finally launching that business you’ve been sitting on or getting back into an old hobby? Comment down below and let me know! Reclaim your time and energy, sis. You deserve it.
As always, I’m wishing good health, wellness, and blessings on you and your loved ones.
Love + Light,